Several qualities are noticeable about the Gemini man. For one thing, he’s usually in constant motion. Sometimes physically: he’s liable to fidget, and even if he isn’t fidgeting his eyes are generally moving around pretty restlessly, checking out each thing in the room and inspecting each person with immense curiosity. The hour-long gaze of intense passionate silence that says everything just isn’t the Gemini man’s style. Many Geminis simply can’t hold their attention for that long, and besides, they don’t like to be ‘sprung’ by somebody staring into their eyes either.
Another thing that’s readily noticeable is Gemini’s conversational gift. It’s a rare Gemini who doesn’t possess a quick wit and cursory knowledge of just about anything, which enables him to talk to just about anybody for a little while and appear to be interested. Gemini is also a bit of a gossip – yes, the trait appears in the Gemini man as well as in the Gemini woman – and a less pleasant adjective would be ‘nosy’ to describe the intense curiosity with which Gemini approaches other people. He loves to find out interesting things, not because he’s looking for power over you like a Scorpio would, but because it just happens to be interesting. He’s gifted at drawing out several pertinent and interesting facts about you very quickly, and then, when you ask a few questions of him, dodging them with skill while he deftly shifts the subject onto the strange mating habits of greenfly.
Gemini’s contact with people is always a light one. He’s neither heavy-handed nor intense. It’s rare to get an outpouring of intense emotion; and if you do, it will most likely come in the form of a letter, and be full of amusing anecdotes and gossip. Some people find this lightness of touch disturbing: it seems shallow and superficial. But it isn’t, really. In fact it’s a gift that Gemini offers – the ability to communicate and share feelings while keeping a sense of humour and a perspective. Gemini might be romantic, but it’s not the romance of heavy operatic tragedy. It’s the sort of light, frothy stuff that makes for lovely summer evenings drinking champagne in the rose garden; but it’s not Romeo and Juliet. On the other hand, Romeo and Juliet had tragic ends, which isn’t really a vision of romance that appeals to Gemini.
Absolute devotion of the kind that precludes ever speaking to or looking at another woman also isn’t Gemini’s style. He’s interested in people and people are interested in him; besides, he can be a charming flirt, which is just one more part of the way in which he approaches life. The butterfly flirts with life itself; you can’t expect him to play Othello to your Desdemona. He’ll rarely show jealousy (that’s all in the unconscious, along with all the other terrifying emotions) and doesn’t expect you too either. And it’s impossible to keep him by your side at a party, because the whole point of a party is to talk to people. People mean others besides yourself. It’s also embarrassing to Gemini to seem to be too attached to one person; it spoils the image of the cloak-and-dagger mysterious secret agent which he sometimes gets a kick out of projecting. Many Geminis do their best to seem single even when they’ve come in the door with you, just because it’s amusing to try the role on. It’s a rare Gemini who obviously displays himself as half a tight couple. Once again, it’s not his style.
Words fascinate Gemini. Emotions don’t, unless they can be expressed in words. The more articulate you are, the better he likes it. And he does have a thing about writing – love notes, stories, letters, jokes, whatever. Gemini-type heroes in film and literature (like Errol Flynn) don’t get their charm from heavy-handed emotional intensity or physical prowess. They get it from cosmopolitan panache, a touch of culture, a taste for good wine, a love of ballet or theatre, an eye for a good book, a polished and versatile mind. If you want to be physically swept off your feet and strong-armed to the altar, avoid Gemini.
Most of all, the Gemini man is interesting, and likes to be with other people who are interesting. That means his partner must be interested and interesting: otherwise he has a very low boredom level, and has been known to seek his interests elsewhere with frequency. This doesn’t mean one must be a brilliant intellectual to make a good match with Gemini. But it means that the mind has to be alive. Talk to him all day about what the baby ate and you’re asking for trouble. Obviously no one can become what they aren’t. But if your idea of partnership is to sit silently in front of the fire holding hands and sipping eggnogs, try a Taurus or a Cancer. You notice the signs immediately when Gemini’s hit his boredom level. He fidgets. His eyes wander around a lot. He looks longingly at the telephone – an instrument of communication which many Geminis love, because it allows them to chatter without the discomfort of emotional confrontation – and waits with positively frightening eagerness for the post to be delivered. When you see those signs, either sharpen up your own wit, or take him out to the theatre. The butterfly is preparing to take off.
The most glorious thing about the Gemini man, the thing which makes his peculiar moods and delicate evasiveness bearable, is the fact that he’s really interesting. Now, to some people that might not sound like much, but to those who have had a fairly satiating dose of boring and dull people living boring and dull lives, where imagination never takes wing and humour never sparkles and everything is horribly serious and responsible and one never, never behaves in a zany or unpredictable or childish fashion, Gemini is like the draught of the elixir. He reminds you that life is new, and fun, and something fascinating to be explored. And having spent some time around the butterfly, you might even discover you’ve got wings.
If you think all women should be sweet, emotional creatures without a great deal of intelligence, whose true role in life is to bear children and devote themselves to their mates, you shouldn’t be reading this book in the first place. And you particularly shouldn’t be reading about the airy signs, since women born under this element are even less likely than anybody else to want to fulfill that lovely traditional image. Air sign women think; and the Gemini woman, in common with her Aquarian and Libran cousins, can generally out-think most anybody you know. Her thinking might not always be either scientific or consistent, but she’s a person of ideas, who needs mental stimulation and interesting people in her life. It’s not that the Gemini woman is incapable of being loving, or maternal, or domestic. It’s just that these things aren’t usually at the top of the list of priorities. Gemini, whether male or female, must have air to breathe and space to explore.
There’s often a quality of sophistication about the Gemini woman. Whether you see her in a small country village tending her home and children, or at an art gallery opening in New York City, she’ll usually be the one who’s read everything she can get her hands on about just about every subject you can think of. She may know something about Iranian politics, and Persian mythology, and knitting patterns, and rare butterflies, and the breeding of horses. One thing she’s not: provincial. She needs company and stimulation, and you can’t expect her to be happy with a life of strict routine. And she needs to be appreciated not only as a woman, but also as an interesting person. Many Gemini women become neurotic and terribly unhappy because they try to adapt themselves to somebody else’s – society, family, husband – image of how they should behave, and underrate their own versatility and restlessness.
Yes, restlessness. The Gemini woman, like the Gemini man, often needs two jobs, or a series of hobbies, or a regular class or group discussion, to keep her happy. Her desire to learn is one of her strongest motivations, and needs to be developed and encouraged – whether this means attending university, or attending evening courses in one or two subjects which interests her, or just going down to the local library a lot. In career terms, the Gemini woman often makes an excellent solicitor, advertising or marketing executive, translator, teacher, journalist, or photographer – and the whole world of the media, films, radio, television suit her admirably. She also needs contact with more than one person. The Gemini woman, limited to just a husband and children to talk to, will often vent her frustrations by becoming an intolerable gossip, because she simply must communicate.
Problems with emotional expression are characteristic with the Gemini woman as they are with the Gemini man. The natural Geminian tendency to hold in emotion, to negate it, to analyse it away, often means that the Gemini woman lives a kind of near-hysterical extroverted life running and running away from feelings of loneliness or unhappiness. A good case in point is Marilyn Monroe, who perhaps might have been spared the tragic conclusion to her life if she had been more emotionally honest with herself. Her attraction lay as much in her sparkle as it did in her looks, for Gemini radiates a kind of fascination whether he or she is conventionally attractive or not.
You often see Gemini women who are terribly highly-strung and nervous. It’s a characteristic Geminian response to repressed emotion. It’s got to do with that other twin, the one we talked about earlier. For the Gemini woman, the polarity in her nature often consists of her feminine self and her intellect, which are frequently at odds with each other. She’ll have in equal proportions the same needs and drives which motivate any woman, and the Geminian intellectual drive as well. And they don’t always get on too well together, these two faces, because if you pursue the mind with all its butterfly weavings and turnings, you can’t afford to commit yourself either to love or to maternity. It’s a hard tangle for the Gemini woman to sort out. She’s often more at home in conversations with men than with her own sex: and unless her children are interesting themselves, and able to keep her mind fascinated, she often finds the nonverbal side of communication with children difficult. Many Gemini women have great academic expectations from their children, especially if they have not developed themselves along this line; and it’s probably a more sensible exercise for the Geminian woman to satisfy her own love of learning and travel and excitement first before she attempts to raise a family. Otherwise the low boredom level, and the dislike of routine, can become pretty difficult.
No astrological sign is deficient in any basic human need or expression. It’s just that each sign suggests a bias, a propensity to learn one way more than another. With Gemini, ruled by Mercury, the need for knowledge and experience and stimulation is often greater than the need for security. It’s a question of trying to allow room in one’s life for all one’s needs to be fulfilled. This is why Gemini, as a sign for a woman, requires plenty of room for personal freedom, development of ideas, and contact socially beyond the family circle. Air signs, as we’ve said several times already, need air.
The quality of delicate romanticism exists in the Gemini woman as well as the Gemini man. It isn’t a heavy or strongly emotional romanticism; it’s light, cultured, and airy. Gemini needs to be frivolous, and love for Gemini must contain some humour and some frivolity as well as more intense emotion. Also, it needs to be talked about. The Gemini woman loves words as much as the Gemini man, which means that the tacit assumption that your presence bespeaks your love doesn’t accomplish any miracles. The Gemini woman appreciates a man who can be articulate, especially about his feelings. And Gemini also likes a few games; things shouldn’t be brutally honest or stark or without style.
Sometimes you see a strong aesthetic sensitivity in the Gemini woman. Taste is important to her. She’s often fashion-conscious and trend-conscious. She’s rarely the old-fashioned type for whom the sentimental memories of Victoriana suffice. More often she’ll be intensely modern in her tastes, from clothes to cars to the films she enjoys and the books she reads. Nostalgia is a Cancerian trait, not a Geminian one.
The Gemini woman can be a fascinating creature. She can also be an elusive one, and a thoroughly confusing one if you attempt to type her. She’s particularly confusing if you expect her moods to be consistent and her interests focused. But once again, remember the butterfly. Butterflies aren’t provided by nature for utilitarian reasons such as our food supply or the wood from which we would build houses. Whatever nature had in mind, we enjoy butterflies for their beauty, for their grace, for their freedom, for their brightness. To stretch the analogy to unbearable lengths, we do derive one useful commodity from the efforts of this kingdom of nature: silk, the most delicate and luxurious and exotic of fabrics. Gemini is often like silk: you can’t expect to repair your car in silk, or subject it to the brutalities of a washing machine, but treated delicately and appreciated for its beauty, it’s the most cherished material in the world.